CO-DEPENDENCE IS NOT LOVE.
The co dependence is a limited vibration, which with we block our self- development, and growth. Co-dependence is submissive to a Control. It is not a free and balanced giving and taking relationship.
There are few things we should ponder about it, self-analyzing and seeking for our own clues to find the way to list it and, once more invest time on work discovering, bring it to the surface and seek for tools to repair this vibration replacing it by attributes filled, which with vibrates in higher frequency.
We can recall, past situations, people in our lives, not saying that we should bring old negative emotions back but taking only facts that you know and are aware that it had taught the proposed lesson and you had moved on with a positive balance. This is to say that no one’s experiences will serve us to improve and recycle our old patterns and replace them by new and positive ones.
After that and watching, learning in many ways, we see how co-dependence works and how it affects our lives.
If someone, or situation, appears, serves us to show the meaning of this and leads us to evaluate. It is in many cases to reassess the core values about the things and events of life.
We must point out the totality of situations and relationships in life with what we create for ourselves, also attracted from others in our lives. It is always a wake-up call to understand our level of co-dependency and the role it plays in our learning and growth processes. It is to make us march deeply towards our integrity, plenitude and, consequently, to discover our real inner power, and to realize it.
We are whole. Full of everything that is. We just need to connect, and each of us has its own way of doing it.
How often do we “want” or even “consciously” or “consciously” demand certain things from others, from situations / circumstances? This will never be right for us: it will never have the right energy to meet our real needs through our integrity. We must dig it from our own inner ‘SELF”, not depending to get this from our external world.
Nothing that is given to us or by us non- spontaneously is worth; giving is love, love is freedom, freedom is totality, it is accomplishment.
Universal law is proven by attraction, but never by control. Control is a limitation to freedom, to love. Control attracts co-dependence, and vice versa, but never growth, love, and freedom.
We cannot give or accept material rewards if it is not for spontaneity, because we will be attracting cause and effect not match our needs. Is causes us to get caught up in a cycle of co-dependence, avoiding our natural growth, properly. In our relationship with others. In a long way, if this happens, it must be broken and certainly finished in hurt and prejudiced energy for all parties.
We cannot even desire to be loved, demanding to be loved, because our energies will be working in the same way as in the material world and dealing with the same results. Remember, love is freedom. These forms of thoughts / feelings are also of dependence, but never of love.
We cannot depend on something from outside, if we already know that we can supply ourselves with abundance of everything.
We just need to tap into it. And the key to this is: “to connect” is “SELF”; SELF-LOVE, SELF-WORTH, SELF-RECOGNITION, SELF-CARE, SELF-ACCEPTANCE, SELF-FORGIVENESS, SELF-COMPASSION, without ego in control, but of our hearts.
